Thursday, August 26, 2010
Tuesday, June 01, 2010
Coping with Emotional Impact of Cancer broadcast
Author of Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer: Become an Active Patient. Hear a 30-year cancer survivor at http://www.talkshoe.com/tc/83586 from June 5, 2010 interview Noon PDT/ 3pm EDT
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Saturday, May 01, 2010
CHALLENGE YOUR CRITICAL VOICES
The Now Habit at Work: Perform Optimally, Maintain Focus, and
Ignite Motivation in Yourself and Others [Wiley, Aug. 2010] Neil A. Fiore, PhD www.neilfiore.com
Fiore Exercises:*
To identify and quiet your critical voices take about 10 minutes to listen to them.
Write out two statements: in Part 1, write a positive statement that is the opposite of the critical one; in Part 2, write its opposite, your usual self-criticism.
For example: In Part 1, you might write, “I’m industrious and productive” and in part 2, “I am lazy.”
Or, first you write: “I’m very reliable;” and then “I’m unreliable.”
Pause after writing each of these statements and listen to the “Yes but” voice of your worrying and critical mind.
Part 1. Write the positive statement that is the opposite of your usual self-criticism (e.g., “I’m very reliable” or “I’m very industrious”) and listen to and record whatever critical “Yes but” voices come to you.
Keep writing the positive quality until you’ve exhausted most if not all of your oppositional criticisms.
For example:
I’m very reliable.
"No you’re not."
I’m very reliable.
"You can’t be trusted with money and completing projects."
I’m very reliable.
"You can’t stay committed in your relationships."
Continue until all objections have been expressed and there are no more “Yes but” responses.
Part 2. Write a negative, critical version such as “I’m not reliable.” Listen for the “Yes but” responses.
For example:
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, but you are good at taking care of others."
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, but you're very dependable at your job."
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, you have some areas where you have difficulties but
overall you’re a reliable friend, mother, daughter, and employee."
Experiment using your most repeated self-criticisms and deep-seated self-doubts.
*This is my version of an exercise that has been around for years. It expands on what others have written years ago.
For coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Permission to reprint is granted when the following copyright and contact information is included:
© Neil Fiore, 2010 All rights reserved. Email: neil@neilfiore.com www.neilfiore.com
Ignite Motivation in Yourself and Others [Wiley, Aug. 2010] Neil A. Fiore, PhD www.neilfiore.com
Fiore Exercises:*
To identify and quiet your critical voices take about 10 minutes to listen to them.
Write out two statements: in Part 1, write a positive statement that is the opposite of the critical one; in Part 2, write its opposite, your usual self-criticism.
For example: In Part 1, you might write, “I’m industrious and productive” and in part 2, “I am lazy.”
Or, first you write: “I’m very reliable;” and then “I’m unreliable.”
Pause after writing each of these statements and listen to the “Yes but” voice of your worrying and critical mind.
Part 1. Write the positive statement that is the opposite of your usual self-criticism (e.g., “I’m very reliable” or “I’m very industrious”) and listen to and record whatever critical “Yes but” voices come to you.
Keep writing the positive quality until you’ve exhausted most if not all of your oppositional criticisms.
For example:
I’m very reliable.
"No you’re not."
I’m very reliable.
"You can’t be trusted with money and completing projects."
I’m very reliable.
"You can’t stay committed in your relationships."
Continue until all objections have been expressed and there are no more “Yes but” responses.
Part 2. Write a negative, critical version such as “I’m not reliable.” Listen for the “Yes but” responses.
For example:
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, but you are good at taking care of others."
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, but you're very dependable at your job."
I’m not reliable.
"Yes, you have some areas where you have difficulties but
overall you’re a reliable friend, mother, daughter, and employee."
Experiment using your most repeated self-criticisms and deep-seated self-doubts.
*This is my version of an exercise that has been around for years. It expands on what others have written years ago.
For coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Permission to reprint is granted when the following copyright and contact information is included:
© Neil Fiore, 2010 All rights reserved. Email: neil@neilfiore.com www.neilfiore.com
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Neil on ABC TV 7's View from the Bay Jan 15
http://abclocal.go.com/kgo/story?section=view_from_the_bay/health_fitness&id=7219930
Cancer survivor Dr. Neil Fiore shares this advice when dealing with a cancer diagnosis:
How to face the fear of diagnosis and reduce the stresses of therapy:
• Remember that "Cancer" is not a diagnosis. Ask for the specific type and stage and the treatments that are possible.
• Remember that 90% of some types of cancer are curable or held in remission.
• Reduce stress hormones by Choosing as much as you can about your treatment, your doctors, the timing of surgery and chemotherapy.
Choice is separate from “want to” or “have to” and lets your brain know that it's okay to work with your medical treatment.
How deal with feelings of stress and helplessness:
• Make yourself safe with you, regardless of what happens. Stress is a response to messages of danger and is shut off
when you decide that you are not going to make yourself feel bad--that you are safe with YOU.
• Remember to make choices and the Serenity Prayer. Stop trying to control what you can't control and focus on what you can do Now.
You will feel less helpless and frustrated and more effective by controlling what you can--your attitude and how you talk to and treat yourself.
How to establish team relationships with doctors and therapists:
• Ask questions to let your doctors know that you want to be an active member of your healthcare team. This will relax them from trying to take full responsibility for your life and your treatment decisions.
• Call on family and friends to help you get answers and to help you when you are too overwhelmed to respond to your doctor's news.
How to become an active patient and cope with the side effects of sometimes harsh treatments:
• Learn what you can about your treatment but once you've decided on a treatment focus on the positive benefits, not the negative side-effects e.g., replace "toxic" chemotherapy that will cause your hair to fall out with "powerful medicine that will kill rapidly dividing cells;" cancer cells are the most rapidly dividing followed by hair cells; therefore, loss of hair is a sign that my powerful ally is working.
How to build emotional support systems with physicians, family and friends:
• Let your doctors know that you're interested in a holistic treatment that includes your healthy body, mind and emotions.
• You, therefore, want to talk with a Nutritionist, a psychotherapist/ Medical Social Worker or Rehab therapist, and may want to join a support group.
How personal attitudes can have an enormous impact on the course of recovery:
• How you talk to yourself can lead to inner peace or stress.
• Make yourself safe with you regardless of what happens and you will shut off the stress hormones, increase the strength of your immune system, and possibly speed recovery from surgery and chemo.
see more about "Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer" at www.neilfiore.com and www.amazon.com
Cancer survivor Dr. Neil Fiore shares this advice when dealing with a cancer diagnosis:
How to face the fear of diagnosis and reduce the stresses of therapy:
• Remember that "Cancer" is not a diagnosis. Ask for the specific type and stage and the treatments that are possible.
• Remember that 90% of some types of cancer are curable or held in remission.
• Reduce stress hormones by Choosing as much as you can about your treatment, your doctors, the timing of surgery and chemotherapy.
Choice is separate from “want to” or “have to” and lets your brain know that it's okay to work with your medical treatment.
How deal with feelings of stress and helplessness:
• Make yourself safe with you, regardless of what happens. Stress is a response to messages of danger and is shut off
when you decide that you are not going to make yourself feel bad--that you are safe with YOU.
• Remember to make choices and the Serenity Prayer. Stop trying to control what you can't control and focus on what you can do Now.
You will feel less helpless and frustrated and more effective by controlling what you can--your attitude and how you talk to and treat yourself.
How to establish team relationships with doctors and therapists:
• Ask questions to let your doctors know that you want to be an active member of your healthcare team. This will relax them from trying to take full responsibility for your life and your treatment decisions.
• Call on family and friends to help you get answers and to help you when you are too overwhelmed to respond to your doctor's news.
How to become an active patient and cope with the side effects of sometimes harsh treatments:
• Learn what you can about your treatment but once you've decided on a treatment focus on the positive benefits, not the negative side-effects e.g., replace "toxic" chemotherapy that will cause your hair to fall out with "powerful medicine that will kill rapidly dividing cells;" cancer cells are the most rapidly dividing followed by hair cells; therefore, loss of hair is a sign that my powerful ally is working.
How to build emotional support systems with physicians, family and friends:
• Let your doctors know that you're interested in a holistic treatment that includes your healthy body, mind and emotions.
• You, therefore, want to talk with a Nutritionist, a psychotherapist/ Medical Social Worker or Rehab therapist, and may want to join a support group.
How personal attitudes can have an enormous impact on the course of recovery:
• How you talk to yourself can lead to inner peace or stress.
• Make yourself safe with you regardless of what happens and you will shut off the stress hormones, increase the strength of your immune system, and possibly speed recovery from surgery and chemo.
see more about "Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer" at www.neilfiore.com and www.amazon.com
Monday, October 26, 2009
Getting Things STARTED vs To-Do Lists
by Dr. Neil Fiore, author of The Now Habit and Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer and Awaken Your Strongest Self
Start times: Use a schedule to list Start and Leave times and appointments rather than creating an overwhelming list of things you have to do.
• Avoid "I have so many things I have to Get Done."
o Remember: “done,” “finish,” “accomplish,” “deliver” are all in the imaginary future. Your body can’t get there so these images create anxiety -— stuck energy trying to get into a nonexistent future place.
o Keep Starting. The last time you start is when you’re finish. Don’t worry about finishing. Your new deadline is seeing what you can get started in 30 minutes.
o Deadlines in the distant future will keep you anxious and don’t tell your mind and body when to start. Back-time from the deadline to create a 3-dimensional path back to When, Where, and on What you can start.
If you benefit from the structure and organization of To Do Lists then you might have four lists:
1. Personal life: 3-5 things you don’t need a list for such as daily contact with your children; your spouse; your body, health, exercise; and Nature, breathing, meditating
2. Top Priority list—no more than 3-5 items that you start on every day. Know when you will start on AAA priority; followed by AA or BBB. These are the bottom line activities that will change your life, keep your job, and may take 40-1000 hours to complete.
3. Low Priority, C-level tasks. For these tasks a list is useful to clear your mind so you can focus on top priorities and as rewards for getting started. They might include: Put gas in the care on the way home; buy milk; pay phone bill or hire an assistant; fix the garage door; or empty the closet. This is a list that is looked at AFTER starting on AAA projects. This is also the list of activities you may choose to Let Go of – a “Things I want but can’t afford or don’t have time for now.”
4. Procrastination/Retirement List: things to put off until I’m retired and can consider at my leisure, if I choose: Learn Swahili, Salsa dancing, to play the piano, or write a book. This is your Guilt-Free Play list of things you don’t have to do now. Feel free to procrastinate and day dream on these projects.
©2009 Neil Fiore, PhD All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted provided this copyright and contact information are included: www.neilfiore.com neil@neilfiore.com
510 525 2673For coaching see: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Start times: Use a schedule to list Start and Leave times and appointments rather than creating an overwhelming list of things you have to do.
• Avoid "I have so many things I have to Get Done."
o Remember: “done,” “finish,” “accomplish,” “deliver” are all in the imaginary future. Your body can’t get there so these images create anxiety -— stuck energy trying to get into a nonexistent future place.
o Keep Starting. The last time you start is when you’re finish. Don’t worry about finishing. Your new deadline is seeing what you can get started in 30 minutes.
o Deadlines in the distant future will keep you anxious and don’t tell your mind and body when to start. Back-time from the deadline to create a 3-dimensional path back to When, Where, and on What you can start.
If you benefit from the structure and organization of To Do Lists then you might have four lists:
1. Personal life: 3-5 things you don’t need a list for such as daily contact with your children; your spouse; your body, health, exercise; and Nature, breathing, meditating
2. Top Priority list—no more than 3-5 items that you start on every day. Know when you will start on AAA priority; followed by AA or BBB. These are the bottom line activities that will change your life, keep your job, and may take 40-1000 hours to complete.
3. Low Priority, C-level tasks. For these tasks a list is useful to clear your mind so you can focus on top priorities and as rewards for getting started. They might include: Put gas in the care on the way home; buy milk; pay phone bill or hire an assistant; fix the garage door; or empty the closet. This is a list that is looked at AFTER starting on AAA projects. This is also the list of activities you may choose to Let Go of – a “Things I want but can’t afford or don’t have time for now.”
4. Procrastination/Retirement List: things to put off until I’m retired and can consider at my leisure, if I choose: Learn Swahili, Salsa dancing, to play the piano, or write a book. This is your Guilt-Free Play list of things you don’t have to do now. Feel free to procrastinate and day dream on these projects.
©2009 Neil Fiore, PhD All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted provided this copyright and contact information are included: www.neilfiore.com neil@neilfiore.com
510 525 2673For coaching see: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Wednesday, August 12, 2009
Four Dangers of To-Do Lists and Having to Get Things Done
– by Neil Fiore, PhD, author of The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination
and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play and Awaken Your Strongest Self
1. “Done” and “finish” are in the imagined future, a non-existent place
that your body cannot get to. You are left with stuck energy that and, therefore, feel anxious.
2. To Do Lists are usually “Have to do-lists” that evoke resistance, rebellion, and procrastination. The unspoken “have to” part of To Do Lists says, “You don’t want to do this. They’re making you into a victim. You should resist or at least drag your feet.”
3. To Do Lists are often overwhelming and usually don’t indicate the difference between low and high priorities. You could become a Workaholic rather than a top producer who knows how to focus on the right, bottom-line work.
4. Creating bigger and better To Do Lists––as with getting organized and perfectionism––can become a major distraction that seems to justify your avoidance of actually working on a project.
See next blog for “When to Use Getting Things Started Lists”
©2009, Neil Fiore, PhD. All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted as long as this copyright and the following contact information is included: www.neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 neil@neilfiore.com
For Coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play and Awaken Your Strongest Self
1. “Done” and “finish” are in the imagined future, a non-existent place
that your body cannot get to. You are left with stuck energy that and, therefore, feel anxious.
2. To Do Lists are usually “Have to do-lists” that evoke resistance, rebellion, and procrastination. The unspoken “have to” part of To Do Lists says, “You don’t want to do this. They’re making you into a victim. You should resist or at least drag your feet.”
3. To Do Lists are often overwhelming and usually don’t indicate the difference between low and high priorities. You could become a Workaholic rather than a top producer who knows how to focus on the right, bottom-line work.
4. Creating bigger and better To Do Lists––as with getting organized and perfectionism––can become a major distraction that seems to justify your avoidance of actually working on a project.
See next blog for “When to Use Getting Things Started Lists”
©2009, Neil Fiore, PhD. All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted as long as this copyright and the following contact information is included: www.neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 neil@neilfiore.com
For Coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Sunday, August 09, 2009
Emotional Impact of Cancer -- Neil's latest book
Press Release
after September 15, 2009
Contact: Neil A. Fiore, PhD neil@neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 www.neilfiore.com
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer:
Become an Active Patient and Take Charge of Your Treatment
by Neil Fiore, PhD
BayTree Publishing, September 15, 2009
Current events: October is National Breast Cancer Month
Book Signing/Presentation: Book Passage, Corte Madera, CA Oct. 11, 2009
When Neil Fiore was 32 he was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given one year to live. He told himself he would not live that year in fear or being controlled by doctors.
• He asked questions, read about his type of cancer and possible treatments, and fought to get the chemotherapy that saved his life.
• He volunteered for an experimental chemotherapy protocol that was the first to yield an 80-percent survival rate and led to the development of the chemo that cured the very advanced cancer of Lance Armstrong twenty years later.
• Neil continued to work as a psychology intern while taking weekly injections and did not experience severe side-effects for the first few months possibly because he was able to lower his stress hormones by choosing and fighting to get on chemotherapy.
• After 18 months of treatment he made the difficult decision to end chemotherapy, was asked to make a video for other cancer patients, spoke at Grand Rounds, and had his article, “Fighting Cancer—One Patient’s Perspective,” published in The New England Journal of Medicine.
• In 1986 Dr Fiore became one of the founding members of The National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship.
• He has survived metastasized cancer for over 30 years and is dedicated to encouraging other patients to be active and take charge of their treatment.
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancers offers hope and steps on how to deal with the stress and depression of cancer and its treatment, how to communicate with doctors and family. More important, Dr. Fiore, a psychologist, suggests ways to build emotional support systems with physicians, family and friends. And finally, he shows how personal attitudes can have an enormous impact on the course of recovery.
* * *
About the author:
Dr. Neil Fiore is a 30-year survivor of a “terminal” cancer diagnosis, a founding member of the National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship, the author of five books, a Vietnam vet, and a psychologist in private practice in Berkeley, CA. He is an active skier and biker who completed a 100-mile Team In Training bike ride to raise money for Leukemia research.
Dust Jacket Testimonials:
“Dr. Neil Fiore is a Godsend to those making the journey through cancer. His wise and practical advice, which comes from personal experience as well as years of working with others on a healing path, is a gift beyond measure.”
--Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind
“Neil Fiore PhD is a long term survivor. Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer is a book that may save your life. Don't enter an oncologist's office without it. ”
--Rachel Naomi Remen, MD, author or Kitchen Table Wisdom and My Grandfather's Blessings
Contact: Neil A. Fiore, PhD neil@neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 www.neilfiore.com
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after September 15, 2009
Contact: Neil A. Fiore, PhD neil@neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 www.neilfiore.com
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer:
Become an Active Patient and Take Charge of Your Treatment
by Neil Fiore, PhD
BayTree Publishing, September 15, 2009
Current events: October is National Breast Cancer Month
Book Signing/Presentation: Book Passage, Corte Madera, CA Oct. 11, 2009
When Neil Fiore was 32 he was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given one year to live. He told himself he would not live that year in fear or being controlled by doctors.
• He asked questions, read about his type of cancer and possible treatments, and fought to get the chemotherapy that saved his life.
• He volunteered for an experimental chemotherapy protocol that was the first to yield an 80-percent survival rate and led to the development of the chemo that cured the very advanced cancer of Lance Armstrong twenty years later.
• Neil continued to work as a psychology intern while taking weekly injections and did not experience severe side-effects for the first few months possibly because he was able to lower his stress hormones by choosing and fighting to get on chemotherapy.
• After 18 months of treatment he made the difficult decision to end chemotherapy, was asked to make a video for other cancer patients, spoke at Grand Rounds, and had his article, “Fighting Cancer—One Patient’s Perspective,” published in The New England Journal of Medicine.
• In 1986 Dr Fiore became one of the founding members of The National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship.
• He has survived metastasized cancer for over 30 years and is dedicated to encouraging other patients to be active and take charge of their treatment.
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancers offers hope and steps on how to deal with the stress and depression of cancer and its treatment, how to communicate with doctors and family. More important, Dr. Fiore, a psychologist, suggests ways to build emotional support systems with physicians, family and friends. And finally, he shows how personal attitudes can have an enormous impact on the course of recovery.
* * *
About the author:
Dr. Neil Fiore is a 30-year survivor of a “terminal” cancer diagnosis, a founding member of the National Coalition for Cancer Survivorship, the author of five books, a Vietnam vet, and a psychologist in private practice in Berkeley, CA. He is an active skier and biker who completed a 100-mile Team In Training bike ride to raise money for Leukemia research.
Dust Jacket Testimonials:
“Dr. Neil Fiore is a Godsend to those making the journey through cancer. His wise and practical advice, which comes from personal experience as well as years of working with others on a healing path, is a gift beyond measure.”
--Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind
“Neil Fiore PhD is a long term survivor. Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer is a book that may save your life. Don't enter an oncologist's office without it. ”
--Rachel Naomi Remen, MD, author or Kitchen Table Wisdom and My Grandfather's Blessings
Contact: Neil A. Fiore, PhD neil@neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 www.neilfiore.com
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Wednesday, April 09, 2008
Four Dangers of To-Do Lists & Getting Things Done
Four Dangers of To-Do Lists and Having to Get Things Done
– by Neil Fiore, PhD, author of The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play and Awaken Your Strongest Self
1. “Done” and “finish” are in the imagined future, a non-existent place that your body cannot get to. You are left with stuck energy that makes you feel anxious.
2. To Do Lists are usually “Have to do-lists” that evoke resistance, rebellion, and procrastination. The unspoken “have to” part of To Do Lists says, “You don’t want to do this. Some authority is making you into a victim. You should resist or at least drag your feet.”
3. To Do Lists are often overwhelming and usually don’t indicate the difference between low and high priorities. You could become a Workaholic rather than a top producer who focuses on starting on top priority project at a time.
4. Creating bigger and better To Do Lists––as with getting organized and perfectionism ––can become a major distraction that seems to justify your avoidance of actually working on a project that could advance your life.
See next blog for “When to Use Getting Things Started Lists”
©2009, Neil Fiore, PhD. All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted as long as this copyright and the following contact information is included: www.neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 neil@neilfiore.com For Coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
– by Neil Fiore, PhD, author of The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination and Enjoying Guilt-Free Play and Awaken Your Strongest Self
1. “Done” and “finish” are in the imagined future, a non-existent place that your body cannot get to. You are left with stuck energy that makes you feel anxious.
2. To Do Lists are usually “Have to do-lists” that evoke resistance, rebellion, and procrastination. The unspoken “have to” part of To Do Lists says, “You don’t want to do this. Some authority is making you into a victim. You should resist or at least drag your feet.”
3. To Do Lists are often overwhelming and usually don’t indicate the difference between low and high priorities. You could become a Workaholic rather than a top producer who focuses on starting on top priority project at a time.
4. Creating bigger and better To Do Lists––as with getting organized and perfectionism ––can become a major distraction that seems to justify your avoidance of actually working on a project that could advance your life.
See next blog for “When to Use Getting Things Started Lists”
©2009, Neil Fiore, PhD. All rights reserved. Permission to reprint is granted as long as this copyright and the following contact information is included: www.neilfiore.com 510 525 2673 neil@neilfiore.com For Coaching: www.neilfiore.com/coach.shtml
Wednesday, January 30, 2008
DOWNLOAD Centering Exercise Productivity enhancement
DOWNLOAD Dr. Fiore's Centering, Productivity Exercises
These 4 downloads totalling 28 minutes can help you access more of your brain-cell power to work more creatively and efficiently.
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These 4 downloads totalling 28 minutes can help you access more of your brain-cell power to work more creatively and efficiently.
When used several times a day, they can get you started and through major projects in half the time it takes when you use only your conscious mind struggling on its own.
Relax and Center with Dr. Neil Fiore
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We suggest that you listen in a place where you will be relaxed and undisturbed.
We suggest that you listen in a place where you will be relaxed and undisturbed.
Find additional free downloads and Neil Fiore's Mental Toughness and Productivity Engineering CDs at www.hypnosisnetwork.com where all programs come with a one year money back guarantee. To read what others have said about our programs, please click here.
Friday, December 07, 2007
MAKE YOURSELF SAFE WITH YOU
AWAKEN YOUR STRONGEST SELF: Making Yourself Safe with You
Neil Fiore, PhD
When you, from the perspective and roles of your Strongest Self, speak these compassionate statements to the frightened and overwhelmed parts of you, you can:
Create inner peace by connecting your identity to something stronger and wiser than your ego
Transition to a new, robust self-image
Access support and strength to cope with changing situations and relationships
Reduce the stress and anxiety of struggling alone, separated from your True Self
Empower yourself with the protective role, higher perspective, and compassionate voice of your Strongest Self
Note that the following inner dialogue differs from typical "affirmations" in that YOU are speaking to the smaller parts of you that are separated from your larger support system. They, therefore, are easily overwhelmed and stressed.
You are empowered to protect and guide these parts that have limited and out-dated ways of coping with life.
You, from your new expanded identity can access the compassion voice of your Strongest Self and replace self-threats with safety and connection by saying:
o Regardless of what happens in life, your worth is always safe with me.
o Regardless of what you can or cannot do, you are always worthwhile.
o Regardless of whether you win or lose, you deserve love, pleasure,
and freedom from self-criticism.
o Regardless of what happens to you, you deserve to be treated with
dignity and respect. I will always respect my life and my body.
o Regardless of who stays or who goes, I am on my side.
I will never abandon you.
o Regardless of how healthy or ill you become, I appreciate the
effort, wisdom, and protection you, my body, has given me.
o Regardless of how negative or intense your emotions, I know they
are valid for you, and I accept them completely.
I am strong enough to be with your emotions.
o Regardless of how uncomfortable others are with you, your feelings
or your body, I will always accept you and remain at peace with you.
o Regardless of what happens in life, and regardless of your problems,
I accept and love you completely.
o Regardless of the health or weakness of my body, I can always heal my spirit.
*Adapted from Awaken Your Strongest Self [McGraw-Hill, 2006] and
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer (BayTree, 2008)
© Neil Fiore, Ph.D., 1998-2007 All rights reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute so long as this copyright notice and the full contact information listed below is attached.
Neil Fiore, PhD, 1496 Solano Ave., Albany, CA 94706 voice: 510/ 525-2673 www.neilfiore.com
E-mail: neil@neilfiore.com
Neil Fiore, PhD
When you, from the perspective and roles of your Strongest Self, speak these compassionate statements to the frightened and overwhelmed parts of you, you can:
Create inner peace by connecting your identity to something stronger and wiser than your ego
Transition to a new, robust self-image
Access support and strength to cope with changing situations and relationships
Reduce the stress and anxiety of struggling alone, separated from your True Self
Empower yourself with the protective role, higher perspective, and compassionate voice of your Strongest Self
Note that the following inner dialogue differs from typical "affirmations" in that YOU are speaking to the smaller parts of you that are separated from your larger support system. They, therefore, are easily overwhelmed and stressed.
You are empowered to protect and guide these parts that have limited and out-dated ways of coping with life.
You, from your new expanded identity can access the compassion voice of your Strongest Self and replace self-threats with safety and connection by saying:
o Regardless of what happens in life, your worth is always safe with me.
o Regardless of what you can or cannot do, you are always worthwhile.
o Regardless of whether you win or lose, you deserve love, pleasure,
and freedom from self-criticism.
o Regardless of what happens to you, you deserve to be treated with
dignity and respect. I will always respect my life and my body.
o Regardless of who stays or who goes, I am on my side.
I will never abandon you.
o Regardless of how healthy or ill you become, I appreciate the
effort, wisdom, and protection you, my body, has given me.
o Regardless of how negative or intense your emotions, I know they
are valid for you, and I accept them completely.
I am strong enough to be with your emotions.
o Regardless of how uncomfortable others are with you, your feelings
or your body, I will always accept you and remain at peace with you.
o Regardless of what happens in life, and regardless of your problems,
I accept and love you completely.
o Regardless of the health or weakness of my body, I can always heal my spirit.
*Adapted from Awaken Your Strongest Self [McGraw-Hill, 2006] and
Coping with the Emotional Impact of Cancer (BayTree, 2008)
© Neil Fiore, Ph.D., 1998-2007 All rights reserved. Permission is granted to reproduce, copy, or distribute so long as this copyright notice and the full contact information listed below is attached.
Neil Fiore, PhD, 1496 Solano Ave., Albany, CA 94706 voice: 510/ 525-2673 www.neilfiore.com
E-mail: neil@neilfiore.com
Monday, October 01, 2007
PERSONAL POWER & STRENGTH
See http://www.soulfulliving.com/personal_strength.htm
for Dr. Fiore's article on achieving personal power using the
Awaken Your Strongest Self strategies and spiritual practices.
See http://www.hitchedmag.com/article.php?id=289
"Why do I feel bad?" by Dr. Neil Fiore
on what makes us feel bad and how we can improve our attitude.
Note: Awaken Your Strongest Self and The Now Habit are available as CDs and audiobooks. See http://www.audible.com
for The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination While Enjoying Guilt-Free Play.
for Dr. Fiore's article on achieving personal power using the
Awaken Your Strongest Self strategies and spiritual practices.
See http://www.hitchedmag.com/article.php?id=289
"Why do I feel bad?" by Dr. Neil Fiore
on what makes us feel bad and how we can improve our attitude.
Note: Awaken Your Strongest Self and The Now Habit are available as CDs and audiobooks. See http://www.audible.com
for The Now Habit: Overcoming Procrastination While Enjoying Guilt-Free Play.
Wednesday, May 16, 2007
BEAT PROCRASTINATION NOW!
June 6, Wed. 11:30 a.m. EDT on WVOX-AM, NY
Joseph Montebello of WVOX-AM 1460 Westchester, NY, will interviewDr. Neil Fiore on The Now Habit and Awaken Your Strongest SelfSee "Between the Covers" at WVOX’s website http://www.wvox.com/Wed., June 6 at 11:30 a.m. EDT.
Posted by Neil Fiore at 6:56 PM
Beat Procrastination! Hear Neil Fiore's Now Habit interview:
Learn about healthy self-esteem, self-worth tips New Jersey style:
at http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html/ref=cm_plog_item_link/002-9810318-0720802?ie=UTF8&location=https%3A%2F%2Fvideos.whiteblox.com%2Fgnb%2Fsecure%2Fplayer.aspx%3Fsid%3D32248&token=4F11B69CAA4CEA77D22ADCD3231317AABB813841
Joseph Montebello of WVOX-AM 1460 Westchester, NY, will interviewDr. Neil Fiore on The Now Habit and Awaken Your Strongest SelfSee "Between the Covers" at WVOX’s website http://www.wvox.com/Wed., June 6 at 11:30 a.m. EDT.
Posted by Neil Fiore at 6:56 PM
Beat Procrastination! Hear Neil Fiore's Now Habit interview:
Learn about healthy self-esteem, self-worth tips New Jersey style:
at http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html/ref=cm_plog_item_link/002-9810318-0720802?ie=UTF8&location=https%3A%2F%2Fvideos.whiteblox.com%2Fgnb%2Fsecure%2Fplayer.aspx%3Fsid%3D32248&token=4F11B69CAA4CEA77D22ADCD3231317AABB813841
Friday, April 06, 2007
FEAR OF FLYING?
Fear of Flying? See Neil's ways of coping. Click:
www.hitchedmag.com/article.php?id=258
Neil Fiore, PhD 510 525 2673
neil@neilfiore.com http://www.neilfiore.com
See www.audible.com for 7-hour Now Habit CDs: PDF for download:
http://download.audible.com/product_related_docs/BK_GDAN_000057.zip
See The Now Habit and Awaken Your Strongest Self at http://www.neilfiore.com/
See Productivity Engineering & Mental Toughness CDs at http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/
www.hitchedmag.com/article.php?id=258
Neil Fiore, PhD 510 525 2673
neil@neilfiore.com http://www.neilfiore.com
See www.audible.com for 7-hour Now Habit CDs: PDF for download:
http://download.audible.com/product_related_docs/BK_GDAN_000057.zip
See The Now Habit and Awaken Your Strongest Self at http://www.neilfiore.com/
See Productivity Engineering & Mental Toughness CDs at http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/
Sunday, March 25, 2007
Download Dr. Fiore's Centering-Productivity Exercises
These downloads totalling 28 minutes--divided into 4 sessions--can help you access more of your brain-cell power.
Find additional free downloads and Neil Fiore's Mental Toughness and Productivity Engineering CDs at www.hypnosisnetwork.com where all programs come with a one year money back guarantee. To read what others have said about our programs, please click here.
When used several times a day, they can get you started and through major projects in half the time it takes when you use only your conscious mind struggling on its own.
Relax and Center with Dr. Neil Fiore
http://www.hypnosisnetwork.com/downloads/?M56YB
We suggest that you listen in a place where you will be relaxed and undisturbed.
We suggest that you listen in a place where you will be relaxed and undisturbed.
Find additional free downloads and Neil Fiore's Mental Toughness and Productivity Engineering CDs at www.hypnosisnetwork.com where all programs come with a one year money back guarantee. To read what others have said about our programs, please click here.
Wednesday, March 21, 2007
UPCOMING EVENTS & Downloads
April issue of Elle, p. 269 on "Losing Your Ambition?"
July issue of Redbook
July 22, 2007 Book Signing at Book Passage, San Francisco Ferry Building
July issue of Redbook
July 22, 2007 Book Signing at Book Passage, San Francisco Ferry Building
Fiore's response to The Secret
Rhonda Byrne's book The Secret pulls together a number of forms of positive thinking that can have positive results for those in the habit of using negative self-talk and repeating negative patterns.
Self-Sabotage comes about when we use ineffective language in trying to gain the cooperation of our brain and body to achieve our goals.
[see Awaken Your Strongest Self & The Now Habit RE Overcoming Procrastination and Inner Conflict:
replace "I have to finish a big, overwhelming task and won't have time for fun." with "I choose to start on one small step for 30 minutes and have plenty of 'Guilt-Free Play' in my schedule."
- The Secret also encourages the practice of Gratitude [similar to Buddhist and Christian practices] and the use of Visual Imagery, both of which can be effective in lessening stress and giving your brain a positive image to aim for [as is done in Peak Performance training with athletes--see my "Productivity Engineering" and "Mental Toughness" CDs at http://www.blogger.com/www.hypnosisnetwork.com ]
- The downside of The Secret is the belief called The Law of Attraction that states that all things, wanted and unwanted, are brought to you by your thoughts and emotions. For example, if you get cancer or have an accident, The Law of Attraction tells you that your thinking and feelings drew that to you. This is a reworking of the "est" movement Werner Erhart-that you cause what happens and have full responsibility for it even when it's beyond your control.
Certainly you can take responsibility for what you can control [see Serenity Prayer of Alcoholics Anonymous], but it is childlike "magical thinking" to believe you should be able to control others and evens beyond your human limits. Too many people already feel guilty for events over which they have no control. It would be better to accept yourself as human than to beat yourself up for not being a perfect god that has unlimited control.
This belief tends to blame the victim when negative things happen and makes people afraid of expressing the most powerful emotions of fear, sadness, and anger. In fact, it is the release and expression of these so-called "negative emotions" that research has shown boost our immune system and help heal our trauma.
- Regardless, of what you call it, you can be more successful in achieving your goals if you learn to communicate more effectively with your brain:
o Give yourself images of positive action such as "I will eat more apples and vegetables" rather than "Stop eating chocolate."
o Tell your brain and body When, Where, and on What [as recommended by NIH and in Step 4 of Awaken Your Strongest Self ] to start working to achieve your goals rather than just wanting or passively wishing for a goal that is in the distant future
o Let your brain know that you are in charge and are choosing to face the task by eliminating all "I have to's" from your self-talk. "I am choosing to start at 5PM." is so much more effective than, "I have to finish by next month."
www.neilfiore.com www.yourstrongestself.com for Audio and Video clips of Dr. Fiore speaking at The Smithsonian
Self-Sabotage comes about when we use ineffective language in trying to gain the cooperation of our brain and body to achieve our goals.
[see Awaken Your Strongest Self & The Now Habit RE Overcoming Procrastination and Inner Conflict:
replace "I have to finish a big, overwhelming task and won't have time for fun." with "I choose to start on one small step for 30 minutes and have plenty of 'Guilt-Free Play' in my schedule."
- The Secret also encourages the practice of Gratitude [similar to Buddhist and Christian practices] and the use of Visual Imagery, both of which can be effective in lessening stress and giving your brain a positive image to aim for [as is done in Peak Performance training with athletes--see my "Productivity Engineering" and "Mental Toughness" CDs at http://www.blogger.com/www.hypnosisnetwork.com ]
- The downside of The Secret is the belief called The Law of Attraction that states that all things, wanted and unwanted, are brought to you by your thoughts and emotions. For example, if you get cancer or have an accident, The Law of Attraction tells you that your thinking and feelings drew that to you. This is a reworking of the "est" movement Werner Erhart-that you cause what happens and have full responsibility for it even when it's beyond your control.
Certainly you can take responsibility for what you can control [see Serenity Prayer of Alcoholics Anonymous], but it is childlike "magical thinking" to believe you should be able to control others and evens beyond your human limits. Too many people already feel guilty for events over which they have no control. It would be better to accept yourself as human than to beat yourself up for not being a perfect god that has unlimited control.
This belief tends to blame the victim when negative things happen and makes people afraid of expressing the most powerful emotions of fear, sadness, and anger. In fact, it is the release and expression of these so-called "negative emotions" that research has shown boost our immune system and help heal our trauma.
- Regardless, of what you call it, you can be more successful in achieving your goals if you learn to communicate more effectively with your brain:
o Give yourself images of positive action such as "I will eat more apples and vegetables" rather than "Stop eating chocolate."
o Tell your brain and body When, Where, and on What [as recommended by NIH and in Step 4 of Awaken Your Strongest Self ] to start working to achieve your goals rather than just wanting or passively wishing for a goal that is in the distant future
o Let your brain know that you are in charge and are choosing to face the task by eliminating all "I have to's" from your self-talk. "I am choosing to start at 5PM." is so much more effective than, "I have to finish by next month."
www.neilfiore.com www.yourstrongestself.com for Audio and Video clips of Dr. Fiore speaking at The Smithsonian
The Secret & Neil Fiore's response
The Secret - controversy
see http://www.webmd.aol.com/balance/features/the-secret-is-it-the-real-deal?page=3
for Neil Fiore's response.
See how his latest book, a follow-up to The Now Habit,
Awaken Your Strongest Self: Break Free of Stress, Inner Conflict (procrastination), and Self-Sabotage [McGraw-Hill, 2006] shows you how to communicate with your brain to achieve your goals more easily and quickly without self-sabotage.
For tips and full description of Awaken Your Strongest Self see www.amazon.com and www.neilfiore.com under "Free Tips and Articles."
see http://www.webmd.aol.com/balance/features/the-secret-is-it-the-real-deal?page=3
for Neil Fiore's response.
See how his latest book, a follow-up to The Now Habit,
Awaken Your Strongest Self: Break Free of Stress, Inner Conflict (procrastination), and Self-Sabotage [McGraw-Hill, 2006] shows you how to communicate with your brain to achieve your goals more easily and quickly without self-sabotage.
For tips and full description of Awaken Your Strongest Self see www.amazon.com and www.neilfiore.com under "Free Tips and Articles."
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